Why Do Girls Like Bad Boys? 12 Fascinating Reasons (2024)

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Co-authored byEddy Ballerand Bailey Cho

Last Updated: April 26, 2024Fact Checked

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Bad boys are usually assertive.

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1. A bad boy isn’t afraid to speak his mind—which most girls find sexy. While nice guys try to please everyone, bad boys don’t care what other people think. They pride themselves on being honest and upfront, which increases their attractiveness. Being authentic is more appealing than being overly nice, and girls appreciate when guys are unapologetically themselves.

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1. Often, girls are attracted to what they can’t have…including bad boys. Dating a bad boy is an adrenaline rush. They’re mysterious, adventurous, and more likely to engage in risky behavior. It’s not surprising when they end up in sticky situations, but that makes them even more intriguing to some girls—especially if they’re looking for someone to spice up their life.^[1]

They make girls feel protected.

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1. Bad boys stand up for their partners no matter what. Most bad boys are eager to engage in confrontation, especially if it involves their partner. Whether it’s an inappropriate comment, look, or touch, a bad boy is always ready to protect his partner from harm (and let the perpetrator know they messed up).^[2]

   • Many girls feel safer around a guy who doesn’t shy away from a challenge, compared to someone who sits back and simply observes the situation.

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1. Bad boys exude confidence and dominance, increasing their appeal. Whether it’s strength, courage, or leadership skills, bad boys encompass most (if not all) of the typical “masculine” qualities. Research links masculinity to higher sexual appeal, suggesting many girls are attracted to guys who can take the lead.^[3]

   • Studies also show that women are more attracted to bad boys during the middle of their menstrual cycle (when they’re most fertile). Due to hormonal changes, women view masculine men as better fathers—especially since they’re more charismatic and adventurous.^[4]

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Girls may enjoy chasing bad boys.

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1. Some bad boys send confusing signals, leaving girls wanting more. While there’s nothing wrong with dating a nice guy, it can get boring and predictable. A bad boy gives a girl attention one minute, then takes it away the next, and this behavior can intensify her feelings for him.^[5]

   • If you’re seeing a “hot and cold” guy, he might change plans frequently or randomly ghost you.

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1. Girls might seek bad boys because they’re perceived as “sexy” on screen. Some of the steamiest on-screen romances involve a bad boy and a “good girl,” so many girls are eager to experience the same forbidden romance. Western media tends to romanticize toxic relationships, which (unfortunately) plays into a girl’s need for acceptance and validation.^[6]

Bad boys can inspire girls to speak their mind.

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1. A bad boy encourages a girl to be her true self, making her feel understood. Many girls are taught to always “be nice,” which can be extremely frustrating at times. If a girl doesn’t feel seen or heard by others, she might look for a guy who makes her feel validated. A bad boy is the definition of a free spirit, and he can encourage his partner to embrace her emotions and unlock her wild side.^[7]

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1. Being with a bad boy might make a girl feel more desirable. Since bad boys are perceived as unattainable, “landing” one can be a major source of validation. Some girls use bad boys to confirm their physical attractiveness or sexual appeal, especially if they have low self-esteem.^[8]

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1. Some girls think being with a bad boy makes them “bad” too. If a girl dates a bad boy, other people might make assumptions that she’s unpredictable, sexy, and adventurous like him. It can make her feel more attractive and confident, especially if she doesn’t seem to possess those traits at first glance.^[9]

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1. Typically, girls who seek bad boys prioritize short-term attraction. If a girl just wants to hook up with someone, she might pursue a bad boy because she isn’t looking for something serious. She knows what she’s getting herself into, and she doesn’t want to lead anyone on.^[10]

   • In some cases, a girl might choose a bad boy if she has a fear of intimacy. Dating a bad boy can make her feel “safe” because she’s less likely to develop a deep emotional connection to him.^[11]

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1. A girl may pursue a bad boy if she thinks she can change him. If a girl can get a bad boy to settle down and commit to her, it’s natural to think she can help him become a better person. While the idea of “fixing” someone can make a relationship seem more meaningful, many girls soon discover that it’s impossible to change anyone (unless they want to change for themselves).^[12]

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Some girls seek bad boys to cope with past trauma.

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1. A girl might pursue a bad boy to overcome her “daddy issues.” If a girl didn’t have a stable relationship with her father growing up, she might date a bad boy to fulfill her unmet needs as a child. Instead of choosing a guy who’s respectful, she pursues the opposite in hopes that he becomes the caring, father-like figure she always wanted.^[13]

   • If you decide to pursue a bad boy, make sure you can identify the red flags in a relationship. Guys who lose their temper easily, refuse to compromise, and treat you with disrespect aren’t worth it. At the end of the day, you’re worthy and deserving of a loving partner and relationship!

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