Is He Speaking Facts Or Nah?! Podcaster Breaks Down The Reasons Why Women Hate Nice Guys! (2024)

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Why do nice guys get treated badly? ›

Desire for drama: Some individuals are accustomed to relationships that are emotionally charged and filled with drama. When a nice guy provides stability and an absence of unnecessary conflict, it may be perceived as dull or lacking excitement. This can lead to the person seeking out drama or instability elsewhere.

The behavior of nice guys often makes them seem needy or even desperate. Nice guys often invest an incredible amount of time, energy, and resources into the girl they want to conquer. Sending a good night message may be sweet for the first two days, but at some point, it becomes a turn-off.

Generally, women who want support prefer nice guys, whereas women who want a fling prefer bad boys. Ultimately, however, many desire the hero, who is both supportive and attractive—but those men can be harder to find and harder to get.

Common causes of nice guy syndrome include: Low self-esteem or self worth: If you feel that someone will not be attracted to you unless you give them what they want, this could be a sign of low self-esteem or a lack of self-confidence.

"Most of us want someone who we can imagine being a kind partner or parent in the future," Davian says. "But when someone is too nice, it conveys a lack of boundaries. It may be a signal that they are not taking care of themselves and their own needs first."

Nice guys are sometimes suggested to be overbearing or lacking in vision and ambitions; these opinions suggest self-confidence as a key point and area of improvement.

Fear of Rejection: Fear of rejection is a common reason why some guys may ignore someone they like. They might worry that if they express their feelings, they will be rejected, so they choose to distance themselves to shield their emotions.

Bad boys exude confidence and dominance, increasing their appeal. Whether it's strength, courage, or leadership skills, bad boys encompass most (if not all) of the typical “masculine” qualities. Research links masculinity to higher sexual appeal, suggesting many girls are attracted to guys who can take the lead.

There are several reasons why a woman might reject you. Perhaps she's already seeing someone else or isn't interested in having a relationship at the moment. Maybe you're not her “type,” or she isn't interested in you specifically. These scenarios are sometimes easier to cope with when it's a one-time occurrence.

Whether you're slender but built or straight-up skin and bones, a lot of women prefer a slim partner. A lot of us have been conditioned to think of the "ideal man" as having a strong jaw and buff facial features, but studies indicate most women are attracted to men with thin, more defined faces.

What age do girls prefer guys? ›

Furthermore, a data dive by Christian Rudder, co-founder of OkCupid, has used surveys to find the male age women find attractive above all others. The result? Between 38 and 39. That's the age Clooney was during Ocean's Eleven, Brad Pitt was during Troy, and Will Smith in I Am Legend.

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Many girls are totally into shy guys, and are attracted to them for their quiet mystery and thoughtful nature. Girls also like shy guys because they tend to form deeper and more loyal bonds, and getting to know them over long periods is super rewarding.

Nice Guy syndrome is what happens when a person—real or fictional—manages to turn niceness into a toxic trait. People with Nice Guy syndrome tend to: Have low self-worth and look to others to fulfill them. Be overly generous with the people they believe can fulfill them (typically a love interest)

NGS is about the type of actions someone takes, but also the expectations that come with those actions, Mimms says. Typical NGS behavior might include: Putting others' needs ahead of your own to win approval or affection. Acting overly nice, friendly, or generous to gain favor with others.

Nice Guys tend to be massive people pleasers. They are will do everything they can to make sure no argument escalates into a conflict. They will work so hard to avoid arguments, they'll agree to things they don't really agree with. They will take on blame that's not theirs.

As Grant put it, “Good guys and gals have a better chance of finishing last than the rest of us, but also better odds of finishing first.” He said it's because being overly generous towards other people can be harmful in the short run, if it outweighs personal goals and needs.

Another important step to overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome is to learn to set boundaries. Nice Guys and Nice Girls often have a hard time saying no, setting limits, and expressing their needs and desires. Therefore, it's essential to learn how to set boundaries and assert your needs and desires.

A man can indeed regret hurting a woman who truly loved him. This regret often surfaces when he realizes the depth and sincerity of her love, which might not have been fully appreciated at the time. Such regret is usually accompanied by a sense of guilt and a wish to have acted differently.